Below are the letters from Episode 39 2019. We'd love to know what you think! Do you agree with the panel or are they totally wrong? Have your say on these topics in the comments section.
Hey Sweet and Sour,
Am I stepping into a marriage that I will regret? My fiancé and I are getting married on the Friday after Christmas. I’m in love with him and he’s a wonderful man and he’s my soul mate. The only reason I feel like the Christmas marriage Grinch is because he’s such an immoveable stone if he sets his mind to something. Utterly immoveable.
I know it’s late in the piece but half the people that I really want at my wedding I wasn’t allowed to invite because he didn’t want me to swamp the wedding with more invitees than he has invited. Equal numbers. His argument is that if marriage is an equal partnership it must be evidenced everywhere. So, we’ve invited 30 people each, yet I could have invited at least 20 more whom I really want with me. It’s not a money thing, his parents are paying for his invites and my parents are paying for my invites and they both have plenty of dollars.
It’s so tight that I can’t even invite my best friend from my school years even though she’s not my best friend now. Is it worth cancelling at this late point? I’ll call it off over the Christmas table if I have to!!
VICTORIA, CAMBERWELL, VIC
Happy Christmas Everyone,
Christmas should be about family, and I’m all up for spending quality time with mine on any day but how is it that we’ve become so busy that we only see our extended families at Christmas (plus perhaps the occasional wedding or funeral)? And with less than 50% of all Australians believing in a Christianity, are we in danger of destroying the day’s family importance?
Where do the panellists think the Christmas Celebrations will be in 20 years especially with the big commercial push for shopping centres, cinemas, pubs, clubs and sporting events etc to be open on that very special day. If half our families (and a lot of them teenagers) will be having to work on Christmas Day, it kind of puts the death knell to the significance of family at Christmas. Is that where the panellist feel we are headed and if so, how we can hold it together, so we don’t lose it?
CAROLINE, WEST TORRENS, SA
rest ye merry gentlemen
I feel as if my world is collapsing around me. It’s Christmas time and I’ve just discovered that my husband has been sleeping around and has been for some time. In order to make some sense of it all, I confided in my mother, only to find out that my dear darling dad behaved the same!
I expected her to tell me to leave my husband, but no, she advised me to turn a blind eye and accept him as he is especially at Christmas. She believes some men are like that and will never change and so if I love him, I should stay with him; just as she had with dad. My dad passed away some years ago now so I can’t ask him about it all.
So, panel, is my mother right, should I tolerate my husband’s infidelities as some sort of Christmas present, or would that make my marriage nothing but a sham? I don’t think I have my mother’s nerve. I have a young family and really don’t want to make it an awful Christmas for anyone
KATRINA. BOORAGOON, WA