Letters – Episode 34 2015

Letter One: Single & Happy

Dear Panel,

I’m 36, female and single.  I’ve been single for a long time and happily so!  My friends, however, have a huge problem with it and have been bugging me about it for years.  I’ve learnt to ignore them on this issue, until one of my (so-called) friends decided, out of the goodness of her heart, to give out my details to a man she met through friends.  And now this guy keeps bugging me and won’t leave me alone.

I’m so furious with her, and all my mates, that I haven’t contacted them or returned their calls in the past few weeks. For goodness sake if I was so desperate I could have easily gone on Tinder or similar.  Why oh why can’t smug couples accept that some of us singles are happy to be single and choose to stay that way? 

How can I make my friends see this?  Should I make peace with them?  And how do I get rid of this bloody stalker now?  Isn’t setting up people really just interfering? Who said the natural state is to be in a relationship? Am I wrong to think otherwise?

Kathryn.  West Perth, WA

Letter Two: Who’s the Daddy?

Dear Mitch and Guests,

I’m facing a terrible dilemma.  Recently, I found out that my husband had been cheating on me and so I kicked him out – he’s now staying with his girlfriend.  I also just found out that I am pregnant with our first child.  I haven’t told my husband yet and I’m not sure whether this is wrong of me.

I still love my husband and I think if I told him about the baby he might change and then I’d be able to take him back. Thing is I’m not sure whether the baby’s even his.  When I found out he’d cheated on me I was so angry with him that I slept with his best mate to get back at him.

I’ve really stuffed up big time!  I’m only 29 and I’m not sure what to do here.  Should I tell anyone anything or should I just go back home to New Zealand and start a life fresh again? 

Rhiannon.  Fairfield, NSW

Letter Three: Board-Her Ex

Dear Gary and Panel

I have a huge house and my youngest has just left home, so I’ve decided to take in a boarder.  I discussed it with my husband and he agreed.  We could both use the extra bit of money.  I found someone interested almost straight away, however, when my husband learnt that it was an ex boyfriend of mine that I knew years ago, he hit the roof.

He doesn’t think it’s decent and he’s shocked to discover that, unbeknownst to him, I’ve still been in contact with this man after all these years! I’m concerned because my friend hasn’t got anywhere else to go.  Have I really done anything wrong?  Should I just given in and find someone else to take the room? And how much should my husband know about my personal life after all?

Felicia, Brighton, Vic